JUST TAKE THAT STEP!

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Past Experiences…

Self doubt stems from what we have learnt about ourselves yet. Looking at our past is an important key to addressing conflicting issues.

What we were taught while we were younger, be it from our parents, guardians, and teachers, plays a crucial part in how we are today. Parents want to be a guide for the best of our future, however, sometime that very guidance may inflict our present self doubt.

As you were younger, you may have been told NOT to pursue to choose a certain path. Take a look at these scenario of a parent telling their children not to choose a career path because their negatives:

  • It’s too dangerous to become a fire fighter or a cop!
  • You can’t pursue to become an artist or writer, you won’t make any money!
  • Don’t waste your time on Medical school, you are just not smart enough!

“Nobody can give you wiser advice than yourself.” ~Cicero

Too dangerous, not enough money/security and you are just not good enough!

These thoughts are manipulative. They come back when we are rejected from a goal we wanted to achieve. These negative thoughts can stop us from pursuing life goals we want to accomplish because we doubt being adequate.

We always want to be a perfect fit, if we don’t fit then we are judged.

We think we are not good enough to live the life we dream.  Self-doubt prevents us from many opportunities that come our way. It’s always there holding us back. Many job seekers doubt their capabilities and don’t apply to the position they are a perfect match for. The message is to live a social norm and or as a mediocre.

But if you really put your mind to it, this is toxic! How do you know you are not good enough, if you don’t try?!

When you doubt your power, you give power to your doubt.” ~Honore de Balzac

If you have been rejected, and are letting go of other prospects because you still feel that you aren’t adequate, STOP Right there!

Give yourself a bit of time and then assess why you are feeling self doubt. If you feel you are not good at a skill, then let’s put in work to attain that skill. Contact me! I’ll guide you through the process. 

You can’t pass opportunities just because you failed once or twice, remember positive affirmation; Risk – Is it Scarier taking a Risk or Not taking One? … If you are not good at something now that does not mean you won’t get better at it in the future.

Anyone can get good at something with the correct self belief and determination.

What you tell yourself is important! If you tell yourself that you won’t make it then you won’t! I believe you, because that’s what you believe. You are setting yourself for failure just by that negativity. But if you think positive, and speak positive then I believe you too!

The talk should be, okay well I failed this time but I will learn and get better which will change things. You are as good as what you believe, so let’s get working!

The Judgmental losers…

They don’t exist in a large number! Yes, they are a few of these judgmental losers who would look at you and say, hmm why are you doing what you are doing! These people are only saying that since they can’t get themselves to pursue their own dreams. Hence, they have a lot of time on their hand.

Stop worrying about these people! Most people don’t care! They have their own lives to worry about, their own dreams, aspiration, career goals and stress. They are more worried about how to start their day, that month end deadline at work, coming home and cooking dinner and spending time with their loved ones.

Set an example for these people, if they are judging, let them do it! Prove them wrong! You will be more appreciated for trying and trying then to sit back and live the same boring life as everyone else.

How to over come Self -Doubt…

  1. Fix your mindset – You got rejected? So is he, and so is she…we all have. But we don’t give up!
  2. Positive affirmation – You Are MORE than good enough!
  3. When you are feeling self doubt, unwind a bit! Give yourself time to relax and enjoy some quality time. This will give you some to get your thoughts aligned again.
  4. Evaluate why you are feeling self doubt – why do you feel you are not good enough and what can you do to become good?
  5. Write it down! Where is your Journal? Write down, why you are feeling self doubt and the positives steps you will be taking.
  6. Read Motivational articles – You need motivation and their are plenty of people who felt and been where you are. Read how they over came self doubt.
  7. You don’t have to do it alone! Find family and friends to talk about your self doubts. Most of the time we over evaluate and exaggerate the situation in our mind. Our loved ones can bring things back to perspective for us. Don’t worry, they will not judge you!

Remember, you are amazing…

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Adaptability – Your Biggest Competitive Advantage

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We should all adapt and become more resilient…

In today’s day and age we all need to be a little more resilient, what do you think?

Not being able to adapt proves to be a BIG disadvantage in today’s day time. Whether be it business, technology, relationships, everything is changing all around us. If we are not keeping up with our time then failure is waiting for us at our door steps!

Comfort Zone, what a sweet place?

Comfort zone is killer! Comfort zone is not letting you progress! Comfort zone is your worst enemy!

Comfort zone is stopping us from adapting to change! Come on even dating has changed; I remember some time back when some of you use to complain and say, No! I won’t go on a dating site, it’s for losers! Now tell me how many of you have Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, Coffee meets Bagel and the list goes on?

However, if you had still kept that same old mentality as you had few years back about getting on a dating app/site then you are not keeping up with the change. The world will change but you would not progress.

Adapt with time people! Upgrade yourself and read more!

With the same idea of dating in mind, if you held on to your old mentality of just waiting for the right person at the right time, then let me tell you something, the last Tinder statistic update estimated 50 million users. This means that many users are taking their shots at finding a partner while, you are not progressing!

Uncertainty…    

Why is it hard to step out of the “Comfortable”?

Because yet again, we are afraid of the unknown. Uncertainty scares us. We are good where we are, saves us from being judged, facing failure and avoiding disappointment. However, it also stops us from progress! 

A HR Generalist evaluates your candidacy on your ability to adapt to the work place. They look for the following,

  • Handling emergencies or crisis situations
  • Handling work stress
  • Solving problems creatively
  • Dealing effectively with unpredictable or changing work situations
  • Learning work tasks, technologies, and procedures
  • Demonstrating interpersonal adaptability
  • Displaying cultural adaptability
  • Demonstrating physically oriented adaptability

Adaptability comes only after you have mastered the skill of being resilient.  We have to change our mindset to become more optimistic.

Lay offs happen frequently and if that has happened to you, what would be your immediate action to that repercussion? An adaptable person will have a quick Plan A and a Plan B to that unexpected situation. A resilient person will bounce back right away to put Plan A and B to work right away.

Prepare for the worst…

Businesses are always changing and growing by collaborating with other businesses. Businesses use point of sale systems and adaptive data mining applications to collect information to forecast trends. Lightly speaking, Nokia failed to forecast Apples advanced technology innovation. Blockbuster refused to change and adapt to new world of digital on demand television aka Netflix. To adapt and grow, you always have to be on top of the trend. Hence, you need some sort of a personal trend analysis which will help you adapt to change quickly.

What to do?

Do your Research! Study your market! Think out of the box! Push yourself a little! Be more optimistic and open minded. Set small goals towards the change every day and make sure there is check mark beside them every night. Learn how to forecast, try to predict what might go wrong, and brainstorm Plan A, B and C. Don’t be afraid to fail…

Always Remember Failure is only Failure if you didn’t learn anything from it. 

 

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What does being Established mean to you?

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What does being established mean to you as a person?  In social norm, it can be a lot of things, successful job, a lot of money, a lot of property, a great relationship, etc.  Establishment is always labeled as an achievement of some sort and when you don’t have it on a socially accepted time-frame or age, then you are marked as a failure.  However, do you believe that?

I have always thought of myself as an over achiever.  I never took the path everyone usually followed.  I always did my own research to find out more and learn about all situation and used that as my guide and mentor.  However, at times I feel the things I have achieved made me fall behind on a some segments of my life.  I just couldn’t keep up.

That’s when I fall under the comparison trap of, “oh that person has more than me! Or that person is happier than because of XYZ”.  Unfortunately, this a form of jealousy that happens everyone time to time.  We victimize ourselves and create self-pity.

It is unfortunate but we all create this miserable state for ourselves in our heads.  We talk down, on our own selves?! When you read that line does it not make you feel like you are wasting time?  I know, it’s a sad coping mechanism and I also know we can’t help feeling that way at that very instant. Your thinking pattern and or behavior is a product of your state of mind.

However, we need to learn how to snap out of it quick.  It’s a waste of time thinking about others achievement while you can create a guide to start building your own success.

Trust me! All the achievements I have earned at the age of 24 matters to me but doesn’t sound as prized as it once did when I achieved it.  My colleagues and friends have reached up to it after 4 years.  In other words, the significance of my age does not matter anymore as it did back then.  And same applies to you!  Your age does not matter and you can achieve all your goals at any age.  The accomplishment you put work towards will slowly get you to a fulfilling happy destination.

“To wish you were someone else is to waste the person you are.” ~Sven Goran Eriksson

 

We often make the mistake of comparing ourselves to our closest ones.  Then we compare ourselves to people we don’t even know like bloggers and influencers.  However, have you realized that we do not compare ourselves to the filthy wealthy, Justin Beiber or Drake.  It’s easier to find someone or was on the similar path as us and say, “why don’t I have what they have?” and the answer to that is grass always looks greener on the other side.  Everyone has their own struggles they don’t vulnerably display in front of every one.  Just like you don’t!  Just like how your Instagram is just all the good photographs of you and your journey.

Don’t try to copy others.  It’s a waste of time!  Yes, mimic people you want to be like, ask for help, do research and get a mentor.  Don’t sit around and think about others success while you can be working on your own!

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I need Sleep to Increase Productivity –  For the Workaholics

I just learned procedural memory is learnt through REM sleep.  Ah who ever knew! Well, I didn’t! That’s why I am here to share and increase your productivity.  My sleep pattern has been terrible lately. I have been working round the clock, 10 things going through my brain and I have to get everything done!

However, come to realize that would be sloppy job done on all my assignments and goals because there is no focus on my part!  I can’t concentrate and I am getting distracted! I start procrastinating because, I just can’t recall the information as quickly as I am supposed to! That’s trouble! I am already low on time!

Most importantly, whatever I learnt a day before, I can’t remember and apply to my daily work because I am not letting the information set as I am not getting enough sleep.

A lot, of entrepreneurs / go-getters will take pride in the fact that they get 4 hours of sleep.  It signifies to them that they are busy and they get a lot done.  In fact, it is false validation.  They are probably getting work done but are they of quality?

Quality matter people! Quality is everything! It creates a standard for business and you can charge more per your quality of work! 

When you sleep you are actually increasing your chance of productivity and quality of work for the next day. Getting about 7.5 hours of sleep helps you strengthening  of neural connections. You are digesting the information you have learnt through-out the day(s), storing it for reapplication for the future.  When you don’t sleep, the information you want to recall for the future will get diluted.  You won’t be able to recall it as quickly or completely lose it in memory.

The idea is as simple as your daily workout session! When you work-out the entire week, it’s recommended that you add in a rest day.  This is because your muscles need to repair in order to be ready for the next work-out session.  If you don’t take this rest day or any rest days then you will burn out.  Burn out! Yes, that happens to us at work! We burn out when we don’t take a vacation, hence we will definitely burn out when we don’t get enough sleep.

Stay Healthy,

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Organize Your Mind – For the overly Ambitious

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Back at it again!  I have been reading a book Daniel J. Levitin wrote, The Organized Mind.  Honestly, pick it up and read it.  It is not a national bestseller for any reason.  This book made me realize how I am training my brain all wrong when it comes to utilizing my memory.

We forget things and we use it as an excuse to not complete tasks or prolong tasks.  However, the way I look at the world, we have so much to do yet so little time.  I am always behind.  I need more time added to my 24 hours of getting my goals done.

 

What does this create?  Stress and anxiety! 

& what does that lead to?  Future health issues, such as dementia.

 

Therefore, I am causing harm to myself without acknowledging the consequences.  I am working hard, being delusional in hopes of achieving more yet getting less work completed.

 

How do I help myself? How do you I remember important things, keep my mind organized, and not burn out at the same time?

 

Here is the trick! Create a mind map.  I wrote about the visual map during one my first MBA courses. Please click: mind map  for the link. This step-by-step guide is of visualizing your goals.  Seeing your goals visually helps you remove the clutter and to focus on the clear picture.

Write it down! Here is a trick that works for me the best, write every important thing down.  In addition to that, use the hand that you do not use to write your notes down.  Why do I say this?  Because, your brain remembers unusual tasks, if you don’t usually use your left hand to write, then your brain will register that and you will remember it easily.

Learn it with interest!  First, you have to learn the material well and thoroughly, don’t just read it and memorize it.  Concurrently, you are required to enjoy what you are learning.  This way you will remember the information no matter what.

Keeping the last to suggestions in mind, learning the information with interest, you need to teach it to yourself and or someone else.  Why do I say teach it to yourself?  In order to teach the information to yourself you need to practice having dialogues with yourself about the topic.  You can relate the topic back to information that correlates to a significant story or journey close to you or you read about.  You can also have the same dialogue with others. This will definitely increase your confidence about the subject and help you recall it later on.

Keep yourself healthy!  Work your entire body including your brain.  Reading, writing, crossword puzzle, anything that makes your brain a bit tired.

Focus! Your mind is a clutter.  Take this for instance, when some people are at work the mind shifts to focusing too much on what they need accomplish to when they get back home.  However, when they reach home the opposite happens, they start thinking about what they need to have done at work.  Why is this wrong?  Because, both the effort at home and at work will be half-hearted and half done.  The 100% will never be there due to lack of focus.  This is the reason why we need to organize our brain and create segments to put emphasis one thing at a time.

Hence, create a short list of,

  • Do it
  • Delegate it
  • Defer it
  • Drop it

Above, is how you roll my friend!  Prioritize and organize your task to keep your workflow going. Remove unwanted clutter from your brain.  Keep your mind in peace at one place and be there completely with your mind, rather than jumping ahead of what needs to be done next.

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Purpose of Life is a Gimmick

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What is the purpose of life?  This is such a heavy and depressive question once you dive deep into it.  The conclusion always ends up at no purpose in life, we are all ticking time bomb, victim of daily routine until the end of our time. Such a sad way of looking at the entire journey of life, but it’s the truth and made me depressed for a life.

I felt cheated!  I found out that there is actually no purpose of life, everything else presented was a gimmick.  There are no light on the other side of the tunnel and there is no magic or miracle waiting to happen.  I realized with that thought process in mind, I started performing poorly! Almost gave up on my goals and vision because, I did not know why I was working so hard or doing any of it.

Then I realized that it is all about perspective.  The way I was thinking about life and end was very negative.  My outlook was killing me faster than I want to die.  What I did was I focused too much on the ending versus my drive. The purpose of life is partially survival and mostly the journey to your end goal.  Purpose of life is always looked as some cosmic power or the solution to achieve the ultimate inevitable happiness or even immortality (what?).  There isn’t any cosmic power or discovery waiting to happen, referencing to many of bullshit articles!

Life is very simple, you are one out of 7.2 billion.  Dogs and cats are living things too, they don’t sit their and ponder their purpose of life.  To find the purpose we need to solve a problem.  My problem is given in the first paragraph, the idea that I am on a routine and then end will one day hit without any important accomplishments, which will be fulfilling to my soul.  Hence, the focus of life is setting certain goals and accomplishing it.  In other words, solving problems!

Now, let’s not get ahead of ourselves, you can’t go solve all the problems in the world or every conflict of your life.  Therefore, you need to pick 5 important (for now), which you can divert your focus towards.  The five goals have to be a breakdown of where you want to be in life.  These five goals should include, personal goals, career goals, health goals, and one goal towards a cause you believe in where you help the world.  Hence, you are creating purpose for survival.  All of your goals will come together and work towards your well-being, mental piece, and fulfillment.

Always remember, you need to do everything in moderation, you need to take risks and you need discover yourself by putting yourself in difficult situations. Last, but not least you need to learn and keep learning for self-improvement and growth and share what you have acquired to the world in order for fulfillment and purpose.

I work hard every day towards my goals.  I learn something new every day.  I have found my peace in what the important things I focus on that brings me happiness.

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Manage Multiple Tasks and Projects in Life

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It has been a while but I am back once again!  Clearly, I am the one who is not managing the blog posts tasks on time and as planned.  I struggle and deal with multiple projects and tasks every day of my life.  There is hardly enough time to complete all of them in a day.  Which means the tasks are pushed to the next day and then the next and then the next day.  What am I doing wrong? Oh right, I am not tracking them!
You know what else happens when I don’t track my tasks?   I estimate a made up time the task can / will be done and go straight back to the dirty art of procrastination.  That ugly word is a waste of life when you have a lot on your plate.  It does not help and it definitely slows you down.

Because I feel I am overwhelmed, I literally turn on some Cardi B, watch YouTube videos until the last minute, and do a sloppy job on the task.  This is terrible advice for a Goal Digger like me, and a Goal Digger like YOU!

Now if you are not a procrastinator and you manage your task well then you know the three main key factors of managing multiple project and tasks.  Prioritize, plan and delegate!

PrioritizeWhich project/task take more time and resource?  Which one is more pressing?  What is the due date.  Can’t do everything at once.  Set time blocks and start!

Create focusYes, don’t procrastinate.  Some people can turn on music and get work done while I need a quiet place.  Get that block of work that you segmented done and just focus on one task at a time.  This way you will see progress.

PlanWhen you have multiple projects you can’t just go with the flow.  Create a plan.  Break your tasks down. My favorite word of all time “Research”.  I have apt research skills (use my Business Solution 101 link and contact me).  But yes, minus my self-branding, you have to research and answer some initial questions to segment your project and put in a life cycle.

DelegateI know in personal tasks you cannot use this method but for business if you have resources then delegate your work.  Some people think they can do everything on their own, let me tell you, you will get nothing done! Trust others and delegate your work.

However, the most important resource that they don’t tell you is to get an organization tool!  You must write your tasks down.

Use a planner, use sticky notes, use Trello, it’s FREE! I use Trello every day and it really keeps me on track of how much time I need to spend on each task in order to fulfill them in a day.  It’s a great tool to check your task off as you complete them.

To summarize, you have to prioritize, create focus, plan, and delegate. Not procrastinate!  You must write your task down for a visual representation of what will be and has been completed.

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Keep Going on a Monday – Motivational – Must Read

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I know it’s just Monday and you do not want to be at work. It is hard to be motivated on a Monday!  You have to start Monday by organizing all your tasks and your entire week.  Well, use the 5 Power Goal To-do List every day!  This will help you complete five tasks every day to get closer to completing a larger accomplishment.

Nonetheless, the problem relies on creating motivation. Many of us do not have external motivations.  Therefore, we have to create our own.  It is a hard doing everything on our own without guidance!  How do we create motivation without a trainer?  Read!  Yes, read!  Positive books on failures and mistakes of successful people are a great motivator!  Pick up Tim Ferreses, Titans today!

Follow motivational quote Instagram, pinterest and twitter accounts. The idea is surrounding yourself with positivity.  Being unmotivated is negative and if you are always reading post about people who are succeeding then you will keep your motivation high.

Remember this journey is all about you. You have to make the best with what you have in life and be proud of yourself.  Yes, you have to be PROUD of yourself.  How do you do that?  You can only achieve that by working towards your goals every day!  There are times for breaks but there is not an option to slack!  Slacking will only slow you down, make you fall behind on your own goals. To add time to your success, you need to put in time towards the work that requires to attain that goal.

Hence, start your Monday off by organizing and completing five goals to your life changing ultimate goal!

I want to know what do you want from life? What will make you truly happy?  What are your short term goals vs. Long term goals?  Where do you want to be in 5 years from now and where are you realistically going to be in 5 years from now?

Then let’s turn that into a plan for success!

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Motivation Letter – Struggle of Hustle

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I just wanted to come and share my motivation speech today! Some days you will be ultra-motivated and some-days that motivation will slow you down.  You will feel like you are out of time.  You will feel that you are failing more than you are gaining.  Times would be hard.  However, that is a part of life.

Just sit for a while. Think about it for a bit. Think of the bad times you are facing right now. But think of it as a challenge.  If you are facing a bad time then don’t give up! You have to combat it! Yes, maybe you are facing a tough time compared to others. But hold on a second, why are you comparing to begin with! This is your battle, your struggle, your hustle!

Just sit for a while. Take it all in! Maybe some situations are hard to combat but the struggle that situation teaches you is worth it. You are strong! You can do it! You can keep going, keep fighting, keep achieving! May be you won’t get to your result today but you will if you work on it every single day!

It’s all in your mind and you have to always keep your mindset in a positive light. It will all be okay.

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