Tinder Success – For Men

Hello World,

How many of you tried your luck on the infamous dating App Tinder? Almost all of you! When you first get Tinder it’s great, right?! I mean look at the countless number of people on this simple user platform! There is approximately 50 Million users on this app  and in that 50 million there has to be at least ONE for you, right?! 1.4 billion swipes are made daily on Tinder, 2.6 million matches per day! All these statistics must mean you are being counted in those numbers correct?! No, not for all. Some people get little to no matches on these Dating apps.

Tinder Facts:

Why does Tinder get 100 million downloads per day? Well first according to Men, it’s a great ego boosting game. Second, it saves time. We love anything and everything that saves us a bit of time in our lives, our Microwave, Amazon, Uber, you name it! Tinder saves a great deal of time and increases your options and chances. Although, some of you romantics  would still like to go sit in a bar every single day just waiting for that special someone to appear, but let’s just talk on a realistic note. There are about 79% millennial surfing Tinder and we don’t have time and we like our options!

Men on most dating sites don’t receive half the number matches/response woman do. It’s because most men view Tinder as a numbers game. Study show men to use words such as “game” and “play” to describe the app. They swipe on anyone and everyone to check how many matches they can get. Some use it just for a part time ego boost per match. Woman tend to put a little more effort and emotion in creating the profile and filtering out their matches.  It’s a Tinder strategy for some, swipe on as many as you like then filter out who to respond to from your matches. Despite all these strategies and techniques some of you still don’t get matches.

First Impression is your Last Impression

What is the first thing a person swiping see on Tinder that should grab their immediate attention? Correct! your Photo. Your first introduction is your picture. Quality, space, posture, attitude of your picture matters!  I am not speaking for all woman but stats show woman like more of a masculine profile. You should have at least four pictures that show variety of who you are. If you have a really good LinkedIn picture, upload it right now! These pictures don’t have to be professional and you don’t have to look like a model but candid shots are more liked. A candid moment works is because yo are caught showing your real  emotions and truth be told woman are full of emotions. Don’t take pictures that cover your eyes! Eye contact and facing straight at the camera shows confidence. Don’t pose! Guys, please no Selfies! And don’t forget, you can smile!

Some say yes animal pictures and some say no animal picture! Let me tell you the answer, if you have a dog then yes, if you have a bird then no! It’s not because I dislike birds, it’s because you will be limiting your options if you do choose to go the latter route. It’s all about creating a connection. You have to put up things that are relatable. Dogs are more masculine, whether big or small. Birds not so much. Having a dog picture up will show her that you have an emotional side to you along with a responsible side, plus dogs are super cute!

I can only say people are very, very easy to judge.  I can’t stress enough, no kid pictures! No nieces, no nephews! Only you! The setting of your shots are also important. No bedroom pictures! No mirror pictures! Get someone else to help you take the pictures. No Vegas, partying picture! By the way, I know a lot of you think your body is amazing and therefore there should be at least that one shirtless picture, NO! you get only 3% percent swipes when you upload a shirtless picture.

Next up, your biography! Again, focus on saving the other persons time! No one will read an essay. Keep it short and simple and end with  something the person can respond to, “I love traveling, but you have to ask me about my adventures at Punta Cana”. Show a bit of your personality in your biography, keep it fun and laid back.

The fun and laid back personalities are the most appreciated. No doesn’t mean you become so laid back that you stop caring. Also doesn’t mean you become so stuck that she loses interest. There has to be a balance. You show that you are easy going, non-judgemental and accepting. Plus you are fun to be around! Law of attraction suggest and as shallow as it might sound, first thing a man looks for in a woman are looks, beauty, body, etc. Woman on the other hand, look at your ability to provide, security, money, then important, important and important they assess to see how funny you are.

To get higher response rate on your messages don’t be boring! Remember when I said girls get tons of messages, they have tons of options to filter from. How will you stand out of all of them? Don’t make it that generic copy and paste where you just change the girls name for every match. Don’t just say hi! Pick up something she wrote from her biography and message her with something fun and original. Don’t make it explicit and sexual. Listen, even the girls who are just looking for hook ups don’t like to feel objectified. Keep it respectful.

If all that doesn’t help then contact me in the navigation bar on the right. I am full of good positive advices.

Thank you,

DLA

 

 

 

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