Family Obstacles Can Create Anxiety

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Has this ever happened to you? Are you career driven but, you live with your family or you have your own family, or you have certain obstacles that just get in the way.

Story time! One of my friends live with her family. It’s a family of five, mom, dad, brother, and sister-in-law and my friend. Recenly, my friend, let’s call her Mary… Mary’s brother got married and now Mary has more family members she has to share her interest with. Her mom and dad was hard enough to deal with but, now she has her brothers family. The entire family is a bit conservative and always checks up on Mary when she is out with her frineds or shopping, etc. Think about it, Mary is past 30 and the family still checks up on her to see what she is doing.

Sounds sweet, because, family should always check up on each other but, when the check in’s become interenece that creates a problem.

Mary’s family interference has always stopped her from progessing in life. You will see many people who are successful, move out very early in there life. I am not saying that should be a goal but, if your family is always in your case then maybe it’s a good thing to draw the line between your passion and your family. In Mary’s case, she is not able to move out. She did not get to excel very far in her career because, her family always stopped her from partaking or pursuing her dreams.

From a conservative families perspective, they are just looking over and protecting their daughter. However, parents should realize that needs to stop at a certain age and kids should learn to take control of their own lives and make their own mistakes.

Mary has developed anxiety from this occurance. The pressure of matching up to everyones expectation at home while, supressing her own desires and goals has led her to develop serious depression. Now she has a part time continuing with work for long periods of time. Mary has to take gaps, take mental health days, and ask to become part time in many instance.

This becomes a stoppage in her life where she can’t earn alot of money because, of her mental health challenges.

Now Mary is a relationship where she finds a bit of peace. She feels like she can get away from her problems and the pressure at home. She doesn’t have to meet so much expectations in this relations. Despite what she feels the relationship is clearly not good for her. The boyfriend is also not ambitious, does not have a stable job, and says she doesn’t see them as a long term couple. She’s just with him because, she’s feels more at peace with him and feels that she will be able to change her mind in the future.

Mary’s thinking is blurred now as she has several problems. One, her family has expectations that she feels she needs to meet. Two, she does not know how to make more money with her career or progess towards success. Making more money will atleast help her become independent. Third, she’s in a really toxic relationship.

Any guidance offered by her friends are just becoming overwhelming for her. She is having a hard time processing over load of information. Her friends are telling her to leave her boyfriend as he is just straying her along. Mary is unable to leave the relationship as that’s the only time she gets to disengage from her family. Mary’s family is pressuring her to get married soon, or keep tabs on when she goes out. The family is also upset and scared of her taking the wrong steps which will hurt her even more. Not being able to make more money is getting in the way of her moving out and finding more balance.

When people have problems from all aspects of life, they need to take a step back and realize that they need to take it one step at a time. If there are several big problems and they are all connected then prioritize your issues and break them down.

In order to make money, Mary has to save money. She has to make some sacrifices to cut down on her expesnes. In order for her parents to understand her point of view, she needs them on her team. Instead of pushing them away, create that bond and spend time with them. That way they will at least be open to hearing her out. When Mary understands that there are clear differences between her boyfriend and her, she should count her losses and just let him go. This all sounds easy from an outside perspective but it’s hard for the victim to comprehend and process.

If you are ever in a situation where you have several problems at once. Do one thing, work on your mindset. Keep your calm and know that everything will turn around. Tackle your problems one by one.

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What I Currently Invest In

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I don’t know why people are often scared of sharing what they are investing in. Yes, don’t give out the actual manufacturer information for the products you are selling for your business. This makes sense because, other people can copy and the demand for your product will slowly become less. However, you are allowed to share things like stocks and real estates or other ideas that everyone can participate.

I believe in a community system. I like to share and learn. That’s the best way of learning for me. No secrets! You have a question then just ask, you will have an answer if I have the answer. You share your learnings and I share mine and we both grow together.

I currently invest in real estate. I look up properties using Redfin or contact various real estate agent to get listings to find properties I can afford.

In addition, I invest in stocks and ETFs. There is a lot of stocks I invest in but, I made the most money on my Tesla stocks as I bought them early while they were low. I also buy a lot of ETF’s as they pay dividends. The strategy here is to keep investing in dividends and over the cours the dividends will become an income. It’s hard to see the impact if you buy on one or two shares of ETF’s. I would suggest taking an ETF like IShare XDIV and investing a $500, or $1000, each month or year, depending on how much you can put aside. The compunt effect will help you earn a lot more dividends as the time goes by.

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Jealous of Others Money – Wrong Perspective

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We have all been in situations where you just find your hardship as unfair. It’s unfair that everything bad is happening to you and not others. It’s unfair that this other person is so much more successful while, I am putting in more work. It’s unfair that this other person has so much money to spend and earning so much more than me and the list of self pity goes on…

Don’t lie, we have all been through that self pitty thought. It takes a certain personal growth to say, what they are doing is their journey and I need to just focus on myself to make the same happen for myself. All of my self pitty thoughts I look back and laugh at! “Why is this happening to me thoughts!”

Story time! This was a long time ago. I was always a hard worker and my mind has always been on my growth, both personally and financially. This was back in highschool when I started a job at a restaurant and my monthly salary was hardly 25K. My friend on the other hand landed a job at a bank for 40K. Back then that was a big deal, no highschool student were getting paid that much. I was always very jealous of her success since, I thought I was putting in a lot of work and I want it more than her. As time went by and our salary also went up. Compared to her I had to work three jobs to earn as much she was earning.

I would always compare and put myself down for no reason. I thought I am putting in work too, why isn’t opportunity coming to me just like it did for her. Then I started telling myself that it was my fault and maybe I lacked certain capabilities to advance.

However, no ones situation stays the same. I failed to realize at that given time, her journey was different from mine and I did not need to compare myself to her. Now I earn well above what she earns. Her financial goals is get to my salary level in 5 years. This is because we lead different lives, have different goals, and have different struggles.

Don’t look at people as competition and compare. Think of them as motivation. Look up to people who are working hard and don’t question their wealth but ask yourself what can you do to get to that level.

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Glam Vs. Building Wealth

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Now that I am home and working from home, I have noticed I have the urge to buy more. Has that happen to you?

An article by Mark Beach, Forbes, “COVID-19 Pushes Up Internet Use 70% And Streaming More Than 12%, First Figures Reveal”, tells us exactly that. It refers to the change in our buying behavior during the pandamic. Some say, it’s because we are saving more due to not commuting, eating out, not meeting people, or CREB/Stimulus check. When we see extra money in our bank, we just want to spend it. Some say, it’s because we just have nothing to do, we have nothing else to occupy our time with so we are induldging by spending on materials.

What is it for you? I think for me it’s because, I spend time scrolling through social media to see what is trending in fashion and then all these ads pop up. I bought so many TikTok gadgets that supposedly “makes life easier” but, did I really need it?

However, I am over all very good with my money. I am looking to build wealth by education and investments. I want put away atleast 60% of my money investments after expenses. In order to do that, I have to constantly remind myself of my goals. Do I want to buy these new clothes that will not be of any use to me this year? Or should I just take the money and buy more Apple stocks/IShare ETFS. This self discipline has to be instilled in all of us.

Being said that, it is a tough time so go ahead and treat yourself but don’t let it become an obsession.

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Want to Become a Data Scientist?

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Sustainability – Is Your Job Secure?

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Although I had a bunch of masks available to me at home, I ordered another 50 pair. Yes, I started stocking up again just like how I did in the beginning of the pandamic. The numbers are peaking again. Although, the government is being conservative with the shut down, we are not far away from it.

Although this pandamic was the absolute terrible, I had my perks of not having to commute to work, I saved money on commute, I saved money on eating out. I had time to focus on myself and take care of my mental health over all.

But I want you all to think about the ones who has lost their jobs during the pandamic. It wasn’t as pretty for them as they all had to focus on getting another job or changing their career path and skill set. Think about it for it, if you still have a job then you are lucky but, let’s say the second wave it and you were the next to get laid off or fired?!

How much security do you have in your job? Almost zero, and that stands true even if there was no pandamic. Pandamic just makes everything worse, we can all agree on that!

Therefore, we need to upgrade our skills, always be aware of the current trends, and prepare for the future.

I always tell my audience to always, always, always, try to gain another source of income. Yes, not one but, two. One can pay your bills and the other you can re-invest to build wealth. There are some of you who are going to be like, no money can’t buy happiness. Money can’t, and I agree but it does buy you a bit of freedom and comfort to easily have time for what makes you the happiest.

Think about what I wrote, and share your ideas to help others grow!

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Sometimes You Want to Give Up…

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I always talk about keeping going and eyes on the prize mindset. However, sometimes it’s just not practical. Sometimes your mind isn’t there. There are other things in your life that takes priortiy. I was all about work and growth but, when a close family member passed away, it paused my life for a bit. Same happened when the pandamic started, although not as bad as when I faced the familiy members loss.

There will be times where there will be some serious obstacles. Even without obstacles, there will be days where your mind just isn’t there. It’s distracted. You procrastinate that time. Then you feel bad for wasting your time. Instead of feeling this way and beating yourself up, know that you need that time some days. You can’t always be a go getter.

Yes, you need a go getter mindset to achieve while thriving through but, even consistency needs a break as long as it is not a long break. Don’t beat yourself up! Physical and mental health always comes first.

Being said that, some people suffer from serious procastination. This means, you get nothing done, ever! This usually happens when you are afraid of the task, the failure, you think the task is way too challenging… you distract and divert your mind to do anything but the task. This is when you know you have too much in one bag or plate.

The best solution to procrastination is break your work down into segments. It may seem hard when you look at one project as a whole but, you can always break projects down into iterations. Start from a small section and then you will get on the flow of keep going! Trust me, it works!

Metrics is another way of keeping yourself in check. For example, I have some big plans, big money goals. Every day I don’t get something done, makes me fall behind. However, when I open my excel dashboard of my goals and see my progress, I soon realize, I can’t slip. I keep myself in check by using metrics. Keep a tracker, track your progress!

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Free Content And Resources

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Isn’t it crazy how many free content is available online? The world can now learn anything, literally any subject online for FREE. Can you believe one fo the most demanding and highest paying jobs are coding and people are able to learn all of it just on YouTube.

So think about it, there is positions that pay half a million, with the years of experience of course but, that skill set is available online. However, some of you still won’t search for it, take the time to learn it, or invest yourself into it.

One, because the idea of being happy with what you are doing and some how coding is hard. Two, you are just lazy. Three, you have all these excuses, one of them being you don’t have time and with the time you have you rather binge watch a Netflix show.

Binge watching Netflix show s are important too. However, you have to realize these corporations that make your life easy with these content and services are making the millions while, you are sitting around wasting your life.

Take some time today and research on your interest area and actually put in some work! Trust me, you will feel a little glad that you do it!

Your Motivation friend,

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What Scares You About Starting A Business?

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What scares you about starting your own business? There is several underlying fears people often overthink about and just stop pursuing their passions. I am sure you felt one of these or the other, here is a list of your self limiting beliefs…

  1. What will people think? How will they look at me when I start a business?
  2. What if I fail? What will people think of me then?
  3. What if I lose money?
  4. I don’t know which products or services…
  5. This is too much work, I don’t know anything
  6. I don’t know where to start my business, their are way too many pieces.
  7. The market is too saturated for what I want to do...
  8. Too much money to invest…
  9. I don’t know how to talk to my suppliers
  10. I don’t know how to market my product. I am not a social media personality. I am too shy.
  11. I don’t know any of the legal stuff…
  12. I am not good enough…
  13. I just don’t know where to start…

Money

Here is the thing, you will always have these fears if you don’t over come and take a step to begin somewhere. These days people do not take a lot of money to start their business. You have to see what is costing you. The supplies, shipping fees, hosting, advertising and little extra for other costs. You have to plan your exepense. Even then you won’t see a profit right away, unless you are selling a stellar product or service.

You have to keep reinvesting until it grows. The whole business journey is a process. But you have to be willing and consistent to see a growth.

Get to saving about $1,000 to $3,000 to invest in yourself. Get a sewing machine, a circuit, a camera, or an orbelo account to start your own business.

Product Research

It is easy these days. Orbelo literally shows you analysis on how much products are selling and which ones are popular. There are other paid analytics tools. You need to always research on current trends to stay up to date. But, if you have your own product then it comes down to your marketing and your social media presence.

Also, if you are designing your products, then i have glog posts on how to research trade marks.

Find suppliers and reach out to them and negotiate the prices. If you are using oberlo, you won’t need to do it. However, for a good pricing strategy where you are making a profit, please plan it all out!

Where to Start? Register your business.

Do a Google Search, it tells you step by step. This is literally what you type in, “how to start a business in (Your Area)”. This will give you start to finish of how, what, why and when tot register your business and any small fees associated. Do the search or you will be left with your self limiting beliefs.

Start your research before you write in the comments that it can’t be done! Have a little faith in yourself.

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Lack Motivation? Challenge Yourself!

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I am not speaking about creative block, I am asking if you truely lack motivation?

People have two types of situations. One is the one you create yourself, you take on the challenge hence, you are in control. For example, you took on a business and now it comes with challenges that you have to manage. There is the other kind of situatoin where you are not the one in control, the one that is given to you without you asking for it. For instance, the job you hate but, you need for the money or a physical disability.

Either way, it’s your responsibility to keep moving forward! Yes, it sucks that you are put in a position where you have to struggle where as others are at better positions, still you have to keep pushing to accomplish your challenges. The ownership of your responsibilities are very important. It is seen, accomplishing challenges are more fulfilling in the long run than simply avoiding them.

Lack of motivation usually comes from a lot of overthinking…what will they think? what if I fail? what if I lose money? But what if you don’t?

Here is the thing, if you do something or you don’t do something, doesn’t matter at the end as everyone dies at the end. But doing something is much more fulfilling than not doing it. Accomplishing something is not a waste of your life. So if you have an idea that you are holding off on, just get up, research and get it done.

Now there are people in a lot of different positions, reading this makes them feel as if these are just words. But, if you don’t change your mindset, let alone at least put the research in then you just don’t no.

Someone will write in the comments, I am a single mom, who gets paid minimum wage, with three kids, I just don’t have time. Then your priority is something else, you need to sort out your priorities. If you feel that there is something you want to accomplish then at least do Google search before, you think it can’t be done.

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