What Has This Lockdown Taught You?

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Sorry I am late, work has been crazy! But I am just checking up on you all!

Unpredictability! My worst fear, something that gives me deep anxiety. Yes, unpredictabilty is what I have learned from this lockdown. I have also learned to accept it.

Just like most people, it has been testing for me. I was given new challenges at work that I had to quickly adapt to in these testing times of lay offs. One of my family members passed away. Over all I was just alone pick up all my emotions and work.

Being prepared for these unprecedented times is actually what would help you gain a bit of confidence. However, some obstacles you just have to deal with and own. Feel the emotions and get back to working. Feel your emotions completely and talk about it. For examples, if you lost your job, or someone at home is sick or you are struggling with something… try to find people who went through similar expeirences and just talk about it. It will help you.

What really helped me through 2020 is listening to podcasts. I wasn’t willing to open up completely with all that was going on. The podcasts were interesting, I resonated with the stories without having to tell someone my story. I learned how other people deal with anxiety and challening situatoins. The stories were not all about coping. These were various podcast starting from finanace to simply being happy. The subject varied widely. All I can say is it help me a lot.

There will be really shitty and hard times in life! Really rock bottom times but, you have to own all situations. When I say all situations, I mean the worst of the worst. You can’t be too comfortable with your current situation. I hope of the best for everyone, but you have to be uncomfortable enough to know that you may lose it all tomorrow. You should be able to turn around and say I am okay or not okay with that!

If you are not okay with a certain situation then plan early for it if you can. If you can’t then give yourself some time to cope.

Thank you for all your support! I hope you are all strong during these unsettling times!

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COVID – 19 – Give Back by Volunteering

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I am not sponsored to say this, but leave all the conspiracy theories aside… People really need help at this time. I have been thinking of ways to give back and help people in need through out this pandamic.

Toronto Food Back requires donations to help with Covid – 19 respose.

The Daily Bread Food Back requires assitance.

The Friendly Neighbor Hotline requires volunteers.

Kids Help Line requires volunteers.

#Stitchforcorona requires volunteers.

Please follow this link to help people in your free time.

https://www.blogto.com/city/2020/04/volunteer-opportunities-toronto-covid-19/

Thank you,

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Anxiety is genetic but can be controlled!

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I am trying to balance and jungle many goals and milestones in life as we speak. My work environment and the nature of my job can easily allow a lot of stress and therefore I am subject to feeling a lot anxiety at times. However, having anxiety is genetic. For example, if your mom’s side and parents had anxiety of some sort then there is a chance you may have anxiety as well.

Anxiety is really diminishing to your health ultimately if not managed properly. Anxiety can be caused by stress. However, if you notice that you are unable to complete day to day task then it’s clinical anxiety and it is time for you to seek out help.

 

 There are five types of Anxiety,

  • Generalized anxiety – Stress
  • Obsessive compulsive – Repetitive behavior that proves the same negative outcome
  • Panic disorder – You are worried about the outcome
  • PTSD – You endured a traumatic experience your childhood or lifetime
  • Social anxiety disorder – You are self consciousness

Anxiety can cause avoidance. This a common coping technique used by people with anxiety.  For example, people with anxiety will often avoid events to eliminate social interaction and/or job opportunities to avoid the interview process. This is because they are afraid of the outcome. They are afraid they will perform poorly and will be judged.

Eventually avoidance will come back to haunt these people as they must deal with outcome in the future.  Let’s say that you avoided preparing for an exam, or just didn’t go to the exam because you were afraid of failing or doing poorly. The result will be the same, you would fail. Rather,  if you had taken the time to study then you could have avoided anxiety instead. Avoidance causes the brain to use a lot of power to supress feelings.

If clinical then people should get help, if not then people should learn to face the problems. Avoidance allows a person to prolong the negative output. Some people even convince themselves that they work well under pressure. However, it’s just them putting off the work until the last minute because, they were avoiding the result.

There are two things to understand:

  1. Bad things happen in life (which is not controllable always)
  2. The reaction is always controllable

It’s important to feel the emotion and not to avoid the feeling. The more you are open and expressive the less anxiety you will feel.

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Make More Money

Hi World,

I am sorry! I know I keep saying I will post often but I fail with all that has been happening. However, my blog posts are never about failing. They are about embracing struggle and creating them into opportunities. These blogs have always been to motivate you at your lowest. Inform you of various techniques, technologies, balancing emotional and mental health.

I like to write and connect with everyone and share my learnings and experiences. Thank you for always showing support and subscribing to my other social media platforms.

2019 has brought me a lot of opportunities, learnings and, also struggle. The past year I have struggled with my father’s illness and struggled feeling stuck in a toxic relationship and trapped in stagnant work with no growth. Somehow, I managed to turn that mindset around and just focus on work. Work, work, and work. I learned new skills and networked to meet new professionals. This really turned things around for me! Focussing on learning new skills built my confidence.

Now I know what I need to succeed this new year or at least give it my best! If I don’t then I wouldn’t know if I could have made it.  Therefore, 2020 will be about making a lot of money!

Do not get me wrong! Money cannot buy happiness but one thing it does is give you that financial freedom to gain that happiness. The time to spend with your family and confidence to take care of yourself. It buys comfort!

I am dedicating this year towards learning new skills and building a portfolio!

This was a short one but this was a welcome post to the New Year! I want you to all succeed this new year so please don’t forget to share your journey with me and reach out with any questions about finances, IT,  Strategy, Marketing and Business!

DLA

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Grateful – Mindfulness

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Let’s practice Mindfulness for 5 minutes today.  Can we write down 3 things you are grateful for at this present time?  It can be anything!  I am grateful to still have my parents with me, I am blessed to have a supportive group of friends and I am happy, because I a platform to share my thoughts.

Now your turn! Let’s start doing this every night! Why?

We live in a disruptive world where we are always chasing something! Money, attention, career, family, love life, success, there is always something that you are chasing.  You weigh yourself against that “thing” and feel bad when you are not close to attaining the goal.  But, if you forecast everything and live in the future then you are basically letting go of your present time.  One day you will look back and say where did the time go and why haven’t I experience or missed somethings that were already there in my life.

That is the reason why I want you to practice gratefulness! Be positive and  grateful for everything and try to turn your negatives into positive. Remember perception is key.  The way you look at a situation can change the world!

Remember, you are amazing…

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Dementia treated with Validation Therapy

The title is not accurate for this blog.  Validation Therapy do not treat dementia patient but it definitely eases their pain.

Google just stated, 50 million people around the world currently have dementia and there are 10 million new cases every day.

 

Does that statistic scare you?  That is a scary thought.  That means when I am older there is a good chance of me being diagnosed with dementia.  This means, I would have impaired reasoning and memory loss.

People with close loved ones diagnosed with Alzheimer and dementia face tremendous hardship.  People diagnosed with this disease need round the clock care.  If the patient is not under supervision then they might not get proper care and might get hurt due to impaired reasoning.

The carer has to go through much frustration as the person with dementia has their own way of thinking and do not recall a lot of old information.  The carer themselves go through of a phase where they would like to fix and help their loved ones get back to what they once were.  However, instead of trying to bring them back, let’s help them live their last bit of life with peace.

Validation therapy is a form, which helps people with dementia feel validated, respected, and understood in the last phases of their life.  Please follow these techniques to learn how to act more empathetically towards a patient with impaired reasoning,

  • prepare yourself to listen empathetically, set your own emotions and anger aside to be dealt with and acknowledged later. Concentrate fully on what they are sharing, making sure you’re able to pick up on any little nuance they exhibit or share.
  • Reminisce with them, especially talking about how they were able to solve a problem. A person with dementia cannot learn new coping skills; but, remembering how they handled problems in the past may help them rediscover a way to deal with problems they currently face.
  • If the person with dementia enjoys physical contact, and would not consider you to be violating their space, use touch to establish a relationship with them. Gently stroking their cheek or hand may remind them of pleasant times from the past, such as times when their mother did the same. Remember, people who have problems with others being in their personal space will continue to have those issues, disoriented or not. Respect for their boundaries is important.
  • Maintain close eye contact. Gazing into their eyes will help them feel secure and loved.
  • Music is a great tool. Music and songs often transport us to another place and time. Think how many times a song reminds you of other people, places or events. Non-verbal people with dementia can even sing songs they once knew when they are otherwise unable to speak.
  • Do not argue with them. Arguing with a confused person is rarely productive and leads to frustration and agitation.
  • Use a clear, low (but not quiet) and loving tone. High-pitched tones and soft tones are difficult for someone with impaired hearing to understand. Plus, an overly loud voice can come across as harsh or angry; therefore, do not talk louder than necessary just because they are hard of hearing.
  • Use non-threatening, factual words. A person with dementia is not the least bit concerned in discovering why they behave the way they do. Rather than asking why something was done, focus instead on the more concrete questions of who, what, where, when and how.

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I need Sleep to Increase Productivity –  For the Workaholics

I just learned procedural memory is learnt through REM sleep.  Ah who ever knew! Well, I didn’t! That’s why I am here to share and increase your productivity.  My sleep pattern has been terrible lately. I have been working round the clock, 10 things going through my brain and I have to get everything done!

However, come to realize that would be sloppy job done on all my assignments and goals because there is no focus on my part!  I can’t concentrate and I am getting distracted! I start procrastinating because, I just can’t recall the information as quickly as I am supposed to! That’s trouble! I am already low on time!

Most importantly, whatever I learnt a day before, I can’t remember and apply to my daily work because I am not letting the information set as I am not getting enough sleep.

A lot, of entrepreneurs / go-getters will take pride in the fact that they get 4 hours of sleep.  It signifies to them that they are busy and they get a lot done.  In fact, it is false validation.  They are probably getting work done but are they of quality?

Quality matter people! Quality is everything! It creates a standard for business and you can charge more per your quality of work! 

When you sleep you are actually increasing your chance of productivity and quality of work for the next day. Getting about 7.5 hours of sleep helps you strengthening  of neural connections. You are digesting the information you have learnt through-out the day(s), storing it for reapplication for the future.  When you don’t sleep, the information you want to recall for the future will get diluted.  You won’t be able to recall it as quickly or completely lose it in memory.

The idea is as simple as your daily workout session! When you work-out the entire week, it’s recommended that you add in a rest day.  This is because your muscles need to repair in order to be ready for the next work-out session.  If you don’t take this rest day or any rest days then you will burn out.  Burn out! Yes, that happens to us at work! We burn out when we don’t take a vacation, hence we will definitely burn out when we don’t get enough sleep.

Stay Healthy,

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My Delightful Christmas with a Shih Poo Dog

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These are my midnight thoughts again! Typing away on my phone to share my gratefule experiences. This one is about my 4 day journey with Jeff, the 21 year old Beagle and Yogi, a 2 year old Shihtzu/Poodle.

Yes, this weekend I got a chance to babysit two dogs. If you know me at all then you know I love animals. Hence, I got very lucky this weekend with one spoiled young pups with a lot of energy and another very ill dog just looking for affection where ever he could find it.

Jeff, the old beagle is deaf. The pain in his eyes said it all. His back was disfigured and you can tell that he cries a lot. He is on 3 different medication that need to be mixed to his food. He can’t eat his food dry, they need go be mixed with wet food. If you end up giving him treats, (which he loves by the way), he will start coughing.

He was extremely friendly. He would always come to me and just randomly sit on my lap. But his front two legs were weak and he would have a hard time keeping his balance while sitting. He would whimper for food all the time but sadly we were not allowed to feed him more than twice.

It was heartbreaking to see him beg for attention. I figured that as he got older, the affection at home became lesser. It maybe because the people who take care of him are old themselves and or still treat him like he is self sufficient.

But we forget animals are just like humans. They require a lot of love, affection and attention. Unfortunately, on top of his physical pain, Jeff is also deaf. His disability made it seem as if he wanted to connect and share his miseries and needs with eye contact. His hopeless eyes and cry for attention really hurt my heart.

Then came my lil 2 year Yogurt bear. He literally looked like a bear. His parents left for vacation and hand us over a bunch of well written instructions to how to take care of Yogi. Yogi is a spoiled little to two year old.

Yogi bear was shy at first. But just like Jeff, he wanted the same love and affection. At first he was really shy. But within 2 hours he became very, very comfortable. He would not let me move anywhere alone and when ever I sat down, he fell asleep on my lap.

Yogi has a lot of energy. Wants to go for walks but at the same time snuggle in bed. When he got scared he would find me and hide behind my back for pretection. He really made my Christmas worthwhile. I fell in love with all the love that the baby was giving me.

I had told myself to achieve my goals, I need to put some stuff aside, for example raising a family or having babies. But Yogi, really is giving me time to think about this all over again. I really loved taking care of the two year old and it wouldn’t be bad to raise a family one day. I wouldn’t mind a lil trouble maker running around as soon as I come home.

Let me know how your Christmas went…

DLA

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Rejection doesn’t have to be Negative

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Rejection sucks! Be it breakup, a position you didn’t get or your body rejecting you with a fatal illness! The point is they all feel terrible. We need a rejection therapy and I am here to support you with the cold sore feelings of rejection. Have you ever sat down and thought why rejection always incite the negative? When rejected you are always taking personal unkind shots at yourself –unhealthy! In most cases the feelings are anger, anxiety, depression, fear, frustration, humiliation, worthlessness, and all the other negative emotions you can think of. Now our job is to regulate these emotions and not let it take over! Changing the way you look at the word “rejection” plays a huge part!

Don’t take it personal

Yeah man, don’t take it personal! Rejection always has two sides, the rejecter and the rejected. The rejecter can have many reasons to why they are not considering you and no, it’s not because you are useless! Take a fatal illness like cancer for instance, I am sure you wouldn’t choose your body to store and create cancer cells. A job interviewer may choose to move on by marginal difference of skillset they find on another candidates resume. A girl/boy may choose not to be with you because they want different things in life than you. A child may be given to an Adoption service right after birth and it may be since the parents are struggling financially. None of these examples should make the rejected feel less.

Give it your best and let go!

If you think about all the examples, the person rejecting always has the upper hand of making the choice. They can choose if they see you fit or not with their circumstance in mind. You, on the other hand, is the one going to them for the decision. Let me clarify that, I said, “decision” not the, “final verdict”. Sure, it’s great to be selected for what you wished for but that’s not the reality of life and doesn’t always pan out that way. I think that’s a really important key point, life doesn’t always pan out the way we want it. Since we know this what we need to do is give it our best and let go and then repeat! The decision really doesn’t matter! Remember, don’t take it personal! The decision is your chance to improve, it’s actually an opportunity. Everything in life is a learning process. After the decision, you always get to ask why and that’s the best part for self-growth and improvement!

Ask why and get better!

Get Feedback! Make sure you understand why there was a breakup in the relationship and take away what you can do differently next time. Write a follow up interview email and ask for feedback about what was missing. Feedback is what will help you face your next opportunity with a little more confidence.

Get Rejected and be excited for it!

The worst part of facing a rejection is fear of rejection. People actually stop trying after being rejected the first few times! What? No! You are doing it all wrong! You have to train yourself to be immune to rejection. Trust me, all the Founders and CEO’s of all the Fortune 500 companies can attest to me saying that they didn’t get where they are with their first try! You have to keep on trying to land something perfect. Rejection always works itself out. When you are rejected, you are so deep into self-blame that you don’t take into count that it was actually good that you did get rejected. Maybe if you stayed in the relationship it would have become unbearably toxic, or if you accepted that role, the hectic work environment wouldn’t suit you.

Don’t stress about it! Keep at it!

Sincerely,

DLA

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Relearn Self – Discipline

Hello World,

You want achieve a goal or many goals?! Then you would have to learn self-discipline. Despite many beliefs self-discipline can be learnt with training. Self-Discipline requires practice, patience and control of temptations. It’s a process of building specific habits. Once you mastered self-control you will get more done in less time with less effort. Sounds good?

Define

Take self-discipline as a project. Before you start any project you have to define the purpose of the project. You have to ask yourself what is the end goal and why do you want to achieve this goal.

The main questions to answer thoroughly are as follows,

  • What do I want?
  • Why do I want this?
  • Why specifically do I need to follow through and get this done?
  • Why specifically do I want to achieve this goal?
  • Why specifically do I want to develop this habit?
  • Why is this of primary importance for me right now?
  • Why do I really want this in my life?
  • What are the potential rewards I will gain from doing this?
  • What personal standards will I uphold?
  • What behaviors and choices will I accept?
  • What behaviors and choices will I not accept?
  • How will I correct things when I get off track?

Tasks vs. Temptations

Our prime obstacle with reaching self-discipline are random distractions. We get distracted very easily! Especially when we feel the goal is too difficult. Face it, we are lazy! We don’t like stepping out of our comfort zone. Hence, we avoid the difficult route and choose the easy way out and allow ourselves to get distracted. But how is getting sidetracked helping you become a better version of yourself? How does the temptation contribute in achieving the end goal? It’s a stoppage, it’s not assisting in improving your purpose but making you stagnate.

To reach the end goal you need to break the objective down to smaller actions. After you defined what you wish to achieve, separate the entire goal into small tasks. Even your distractions! Yes, even your distractions. You can’t eliminate entertainment completely. No one is telling you to be a zombie! You need to let your mind and body rest as well. You need to set a side time for distractions, entertainment, and temptations which will work as your reward. For example, there needs to always be a cheat day after a weeklong fitness training!

Motivation

Many people lose motivation because they don’t know where to begin with a project. Breaking the goal down into smaller tasks will definitely make that clear. Another way to stay motivated is by rewarding yourself or turning your temptations into rewards. It’s as simple as the concept of CUE-ACTION-REWARD.

For example, let’s say you are setting a goal to lose weight of 160 pound and the trainer has asked you to complete a High intensity Interval Training on the treadmill every day for one hour for X number of days. Now, since cardio is not your best friend, your resting heart rate is on the higher end which makes you lose your breath while running on the treadmill. How would you motivate yourself? – Cue – What do you love eating? Steak/Chocolate. Action – Cardio every single day for one hour. Track your performance. Reward—live a little, celebrate your hard work. Have that steak and chocolate with a glass of wine! You need to change in some aspect to have the end target in your life, you have to ask do you deserve to have the goal in your life?

Track your performance

This is a big motivator for me! Competition always gets me going. When you are competing, it feels like a challenge you want to win. When you track your performance you can compete against your best self. You can also out work and outperform others you see as role models. Tracking your performance is important because self-discipline is not about constantly repeating something every day but to correct and adapt to the behavior.

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DLA

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